Life getting you down sometimes? Well maybe this quote will give you a little jump start.
If you want to be happy, be.
It’s amazing to me when I pop on social media to see ALL of the negative posts and comments that people put out there. It really turns me off, to be honest.
I find myself subconsciously avoiding the posts by those people or skimming over their comments, or even hiding their posts completely in an effort to remove that added negativity (or potential negativity) from my life.
Let’s be real. Life is tough. It isn’t always rainbows, unicorns, and blue skies. Occasionally time will bring something along that gets us down and often it’s something we don’t have total control over.
But have you ever heard the theory that you get back what you put out there? The idea that if you are constantly putting negative thoughts and ideas out into the universe that you’re like a magnet to that thinking and it’s what you’re inviting back into your life?
Now you may think that is nonsense, but let me tell you that I don’t want to risk it. And I also noticed something. When I was filled with negative thoughts (of sadness, fear, concern, loneliness, anger), I physically felt like someone was pushing me down. Forcing me to feel heavy and have no energy.
But when I ignored those negative thoughts and focused on positive things, I was blown away by the difference. I felt light shining on my face (like you often do when meditating), happier, lighter, more in control, and dare I say, happier! It’s amazing what can happen when you allow yourself to be happy right now in this moment.
I’ve gotten into this habit when people around me are negative that I try to flip their switch a bit by turning that negative thing into a positive. Or else show them how to see that situation from another perspective.
I’m going to get a little personal here. I was going through a dark time several years ago where I felt no energy, no joy, and that I was going through the motions quite unhappily. And one day, I realized two things:
- I was fucking miserable. (Sorry for the swearing but I have a potty mouth and was THAT miserable.)
- I HAD to be zero fun to be around. In fact, in that moment I suddenly felt sorry for my family for having to spend time with me.
I had two choices:
- Continue down this awful path.
- Force myself to be happy and know that one day in the near future that happiness would feel real. But in the meantime I would fake it til I made it.
You guessed it, choice #2 was what I went for. And my life quickly moved upward and onward because of this decision. The timing of making that decision was key to my future happiness. It’s funny, but had I not decided to be happy then, less than a week later I have a feeling I would have spiraled even further into the grey world I was in based on news that I was about to receive. BUT because I had made that choice, I was able to work through that news in as healthy a way as I could.
Fast forward to today, and my life is FILLED WITH HAPPINESS. I have so much to be thankful for. Even when it doesn’t always seem like life is so happy, this is exactly the time when YOU need to take stock.
Life is never as dreary as it seems and could always be worse. So stop dwelling in the negative and be thankful for what you have and grateful for life you’ve been given.
And do this EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Time to be happy right now:
Your homework is to go grab a notebook or journal and every day write down 3 things you’re thankful for.
Yes, every day. No matter how tired you are or how much of a hurry you’re in, write them down.
I’ve been doing this daily since the end of June, and I feel the difference in my whole being. I am happier, more optimistic, and open to bigger and better things that come my way.
So when you find yourself in that dark place, like I did, make that conscious decision to be GRATEFUL for what you have RIGHT NOW. Smile and give yourself a warm hug and remind yourself of all of the good you have in your life.
I double dog dare you to do this and share the outcome after a few weeks of trying this exercise. I have a feeling you’re going to find you’re more willing to try something new, be braver, work harder, take a chance and believe in yourself.
If you like this post, please comment below and share it with your friends! I’d LOVE to know what you’re happy and grateful for right now.
Stay inspired and be happy right now!
~Kelli
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